Friends after Friends with Benefits?
If you are like many Aussies, you may have a friend with benefits, also known as a FWB or any number of colourful names.
However, sometimes those friends with benefits relationships don’t really work as you think they will and you simply want to go back to being friends.
There is nothing wrong with this, but you will need to go through that awkward FWB breakup period, something that you may be worried about.
The truth is, it is still possible to remain friends after ending a friends with benefits relationship but just like any type of relationship, it’s probably going to take some time.
How to End a Friends with Benefits Relationship
No one really goes into a friends with benefits relationship with a long term plan, and most of the time it happens because of some circumstance or perhaps a decision to give it a shot.
Most of these arrangements are very short term and in most cases, people find that there was a reason they were only friends from the start.
However, if you want to end this relationship, and at the same time salvage your friendship, you have to go through the FWB breakup in the right way.
First of all, you have to remember that you are friends first, and honesty is a huge part of any type of friendship. Because of this, honesty is going to be your only way out.
By being up front and honest with your friend, not only will you be able to continue that level of trust that you had before, there will also be some type of respect there that may not have been present before.
Will it be easy? Probably not, but if you want to ever be friends again, this is what you need to do.
Once you have had “the talk” and ended the FWB relationship, you may want to take a step back and give him or her some time. You should try to stay accessible to them as their friend, but don’t think that you will magically be best friends immediately after something like this.
At least give it a few days before you reach out to attempt communication again. Remember, just because you are no longer getting the “benefits” from each other, you are still friends first and foremost, so you want to act like a friend, too.
After the Relationship Has Ended
Once you have made that initial contact following your friends with benefits breakup, you will definitely want to keep a few things in mind in order for the transition back to friends to go as easy as possible. One of these things is to not bring any other partner around your friend.
They will need some time, especially if the breakup wasn’t exactly a mutual decision. In fact, it is best if you just avoid talking about romantic or sexual relationships for awhile.
As time goes on, and you both want it, there is really no reason why you can’t go back to being friends after friends with benefits.
Make sure you are taking it slow, start out by hanging with a group and before you know it, you will be able to hang out again, one on one, and find that level of friendship that you had before this new relationship starts.
Seek out support from your other friends, fight the temptation to get physical again, especially if alcohol becomes involved and if you notice any jealousy, spitefulness or resentment, you may want to simply move on for awhile until the other person finds a relationship of their own.